Boundaries. The first thing you might think of when I mention that would is a wall. That is really what I briefly want to talk about.
I have a calendar on my desk that someone sent me from Hope Church that is called Words of Hope. It is numbered by days. Yesterday was DAY 2 back at work so I decided to start the calendar in that manner. The scripture for DAY 2 is Philippians 1:9-11.
“This is my prayer for you: that you love will grow more and more; that you will have knowledge and understanding with your love; that you will see the difference between good and bad and will choose the good; that you will be pure and without wrong for the coming of Christ; that you will be filled with the good things produced in your life by Christ to bring glory and praise to God.”
This scripture can have MANY meanings. With my mind being so much on Trey, what hit me was purity. It says, “. . .that you will be pure and without wrong for the coming of Christ…” As a Sunday School teacher of girls and a mother of two boys, I have had the opportunity to teach many lessons on physical boundaries in relationships. Trey and I had many conversations about this subject. Some conversations that ended with MOM! As you can imagine a guy saying. But we taught him boundaries. I still teach boundaries.
Yesterday, I felt compelled to contact Julianne, Trey’s girlfriend and shared this scripture with her. She immediately sent me a text back of Colossians 1:9b-14 which says:
“…we have not ceased to pray for you and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that you will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might, for the attaining of all steadfastness and patience…”
I think we both were blown away at the fact that God had given us similar scripture on the same day, but maybe not for the same reasons. I told her how proud I was of her relationship with Trey and she didn’t quite understand what I was saying. I told her how proud I was as a mother to know my son went to meet Jesus as a virgin, as this is the will of God. That’s what Trey wanted. His will to be done. Yes, my son, almost 16, a tough football player, called Beiber, was a virgin GUYS! Julianne said, well, Ms. Lisa, we had boundaries!
How many parents are blessed this side of heaven to KNOW that so many things they have taught their children they actually listened. Another blessing from God and an incredible gift our Trey gave his parents. Obedience.
I believe I shared in a Caring Bridge post that at a Family of Families event at our church he wrote a scripture that he chose to be dedicated to on a brick that still sits on our shelf Ephesians 6:1:
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”
This is why we told Trey he was receiving so many blessings during his journey because he CHOSE to obey not only his parents, but the word of God.
CHALLENGE: My challenge is that you talk with your teens, pre-teens, young adults, college kids about their boundaries in life. Do not stop talking to them about it. It does not have to be physical boundaries. But also teach them about forgiveness. My challenge to the adults is that your love will grow so much in the Lord that obedience will become so easy so when the day of Christ comes, you be WILL be pure and without wrong before our Lord.
18 thoughts on “Boundaries”
Your blogs are such an inspiration to me. I will continue to pray for your family. Even though I don’t know you, you seem like the most amazing and strongest lady in the world. Thank you for sharing your life with me.
My words can’t express enough how much I look forward to reading your post! Thank you so much for sharing. May our awesome, giving and loving God continue to bless the Erwin Family.
I whole heartedly agree! Thank you Lisa for sharing your family and beliefs we so many. The Lord has blessed you with a beautiful gift.
Trey was beautiful inside and out. He walked the walk and talked the talk he was truly an Angel. Thank you for sharing with us. I look forward to your postings.
What great words to live by.
My heart goes out to you and your family. What a blessing to have such an awesome relationship with Trey! Prayers continue for all!
Thank you for reminding us to continue teaching the scripture to our teenages and children everyday.
ms lisa thank you so much for sharing with us one of the most precious blessings of yours from GOD-your son trey
everyday i pray for you,jay and collin..and God will never leave the righteous to be forsaken
Thank you for being the strong woman that God allows you to be!! I don’t know you or your family but I prayed for trey and still pray for your family! It blesses me to hear that kids do listen to what their parents teach. I’m a single mon of an 8 yr old daughter who accepted jesus as her lord and savior when she was 6!! She and I already talk about what is expected and boundaries (not quite sexual but what is appropriate)!! Thanks again!
thankyou for sharing your life with us even after your loss you still manage to keep sharing and not shutting down like some would do, i know trey is smiling down on you and god is watching over you and your family because thier wouldnt be no other way you could do this, YOUR SUCH AN INSPIRATION AND THANKYOU AGAIN!
So true! Another inspiring post!
Eternity will echo the life you gave Trey and the wisdom that led him step by step.
I stand amazed at the God in you and the strength He has given you to share Trey’s life with us. Even though I do not personally know you, I would love to meet you. You are an inspiration to all and I thank you for sharing Trey with the world, as well as your Mother’s love. I look forward to continued posts. May God’s Blessings be yours in abundance.
Thank you for sharing your life with us. Reading your posts has made me more of a believer. My prayers are always with you and your family. I pray one day to get to meet you.
Thank you so much for this blog for this was one of the subjects I had talked about with my 18 year old this week. In today’s society all of the music, tv, and movies scream sex to our kids. We must be proactive in our conversations and in our own actions. Prayers and thoughts are still with you and your family!
I hold you and your family in prayer. Thank you for your continuing inspiration.
You are an amazing Godly Woman and such an inspiration to soooo many people!
Reading your posts are inspiring to me. I do not know you personally, but I believe God never puts things in our lives that we cannot endure with His help. I will be the first to say I have no idea what pain you have and are enduring. I am a mother and the pain of imagining it is too much. I have to admit I am a christian, but all too often I become lazy and leukwarm which God warns us of. I admit there are days in a row I get so busy I forget to pray at all. However, your family has been lifted in my prayers. I don’t know what you needs because only God knows. I will pray tonight that you and your family are blessed with peace and you receive what you need in this life. God bless